1 unexpected tool that will make busy moms reach their weight loss goals

If busy mamas want to hit their weight loss goals they just have to do one thing! Be more selfish!

Did alarm bells just go off in your mind? NO! NO! NO! I have to make sure my kids have what they need! I need to take care of the house! I have to show up for work! I need to pour into my relationship! I don’t have the time or energy to think about myself on top of that!

All of those are valid thoughts. But the problem is that mamas are too selfless.

We give, and we give, and we give until we’re left feeling worn out, sick and alone. And that’s not how we build a happy life, a happy family or a happy marriage!

We build beautiful lives by prioritizing our needs, taking care of ourselves and then pouring into the people we love, aka being a little selfish.

Give yourself permission to do something for you.

Before you can achieve your weight loss goals you need to give yourself permission to do something just for you.

I love the idea of getting healthy for our kids. It’s a huge part of my mission with my business, but you also have to be willing to get healthy for yourself.

Because at the end of the day, you’re the one living in your body. Your kids don’t have to deal with you feeling uncomfortable in your jeans. But you do. Your spouse doesn’t have to deal with the gross, bloated feeling you have when you overeat. But you do.

At the end of the day, you need to give yourself permission to get healthy for you.

And Mama, if you’re struggling to give yourself permission to put your needs first, then I’ll give it to you.

It doesn’t make you a bad mom, or wife, or friend, or daughter to put your health first. In fact, I’d argue it makes you a better mom, wife, friend, daughter, etc. 

One of my favorite analogies for this is what you hear on the airplane. Before any flight, the flight attendant will tell you that in case there is an emergency an oxygen mask will drop down. You should always apply your mask before helping other passengers with theirs - including children.

When we hear these instructions, we know why they say that. Because if you can’t breathe and you pass out then, you can’t help someone else! You have to be able to breathe to take care of the people around you.

And Mama, that applies to every other aspect of your health. You can’t take care of everyone else around you if you’re unhappy, or you don’t feel good!

However, once you do feel good, once you’re confident in who you are in your health, then you can show up better than ever for the other people in your life.

Be selfish enough to stay committed

It’s one thing to say you’re willing to prioritize your health, but it takes effort and mindfulness to stay committed to your health. And honestly, staying committed is a huge struggle for women, especially busy moms!

One of the biggest roadblocks I see my clients hit, is prioritizing their nutritional goals when other people interrupt their plans. That could be your family asking to eat out, being invited out with friends, or having someone drop a treat by your house.

A lot of women struggle when someone else asks them to abandon their plans and join theirs instead because they want to make everyone else happy.

They’re being selfless.

But then they go out to eat, and they end up overeating or eating something that they know is going to hurt their goals. And they come home and are frustrated, disappointed and ashamed because they didn’t stick to their goals.

They were selfless. They did what everyone else wanted. And they’re left feeling sick because they ate something that wasn’t great for them. Or they’re disappointed because they didn’t get to do what they wanted.

Which is why it’s OK to be selfish with your health!

It’s OK to say no to people when you don’t want to go out! It’s OK to go out with your girlfriends and not drink if it’s going to take you away from your goals. It’s OK to not eat something that doesn’t align with your nutritional boundaries.

No one else has to live with the consequences of your nutritional decisions, but you do, so be selfish!

Being selfish doesn’t mean that you can’t eat out or have any treats ever again. Inside my Macros Made Easy Program, I teach busy mamas how to handle these situations so that they can enjoy their food and still stick to their health goals. 

Focus on your mindset to reach your goals 

I want to leave you with one last thought because as mamas it’s easy (and a lot of times expected) to we give up what we want to accommodate others. The best way to be comfortable with being selfish is to focus on your mindset.

Living a healthy life is 20% nutrition and 80% mindset. And it’s the piece that is left out of traditional diets! But it makes the biggest difference!!

One of my clients, who is a mindset coach herself, noticed the same thing. 

“Mindset Matters! The people who I have seen have the most success in my 2.5 years of being in the program are the ones who figure out early on that it’s not about the food.”  

-Coach Nicole Turner

The way we think and feel about ourselves, our food, our choices, our families, our responsibilities all dictate how healthy we are. And if you ignore all of that, then you’re never going to reach your goals.

But if you have tools to help you address your thoughts and work through your feelings you’re not just going to reach your weight loss goals, you’re going to become an amazing mom, wife, friend, daughter and woman.

That’s why I want you to be a little more selfish. 

And a lot of times being a little bit selfish now, means you’re able to be more selfless later. You don’t have to become self-obsessed to be healthy. But you do have to prioritize your needs and if that’s something you struggle to do, we need to talk.

I help busy mamas just like you lose weight without feeling shame or guilt. And in turn, I get to help generations live healthier lives. If you want to lose weight, prioritize yourself and still be a great mama, then let’s hop on a Healthy Mama Blueprint Call. We can chat about where you’re at and where you’d like to be! Then if it’s a good fit for both of us, we can get you started on your health journey within a week! Get started by scheduling your Healthy Mama Blueprint Call!